Why Excuses Are The Secret Ingredient For Reaching Your Goals
Excuses can really kill any chances of you achieving any real success. At least until you make them work to your benefit.
In helping others to become successful in business, I've heard a lot of TOO'S.
❝ I'm too busy! I'm too tired! I'm too young! I'm too old! I'm too inexperienced! I'm too late! I'm too broke! I'm too overwhelmed! I'm too stressed! I'm too afraid...
These internal fears and excuses can really kill any chances of you achieving any real success. At least until you make them work to your benefit. Let me explain.
Then that means you've got loads of life experience. You've got lots of stories to tell that you've acquired over the years. And in business and selling? Story telling is golden. It's POWER.
This means you've got your whole life ahead of you. You've got energy and can outwork many others. Being young often means you've got less priorities and obligations.
If you believe that you lack natural intelligence, prove yourself wrong. Learn and challenge yourself to become smarter in life.
People who always say "it's not the right time" will definitely not reach whatever they want in life. Life situations don't keep you from realizing your dreams. Your attitude does.
Every person has their own priorities in life. If you say you're too busy to do something, then it's probably not your priority. Time management is important in achieving your goals.
Some people find it hard to accept failure.
When you grow up in an environment where perfectionism is a must and failure is unacceptable, you naturally grow up being afraid of failure.
When you’ve experienced adverse effects of previous failures, you acquire the fear of failing again. You get butterflies in your stomach every time you think about disappointing the people you love.
You’d hate for them to be humiliated because of your failure so you try to avoid doing anything that can cause you, and them, to lose face in front of other people.
A favorite excuse of people who fear failure is the saying “better safe than sorry”.
When you have an irrational fear of failing, you don’t give yourself the chance to succeed. You’d rather stay 'safe' in your comfort zone. You don’t challenge yourself. You’re too afraid to try anything new. Or if you do try, you quit far too early because you doubted yourself and didn’t think you’d ever succeed. Self-growth is at the bottom of your priorities.
Being meticulous with your goal planning is important to minimize risk and failure. If you visualize the process, then you should be able to overcome your fear of failure. You will know the exact steps you need to take to realize your goal and you’re essentially leaving very little to chance.
Fearing success is another matter altogether and is less easily understood by many because its symptoms can easily be mistaken for insecurity and procrastination.
The first sign is you feel like you don’t deserve success or you feel unworthy. You’re stifling your growth and even greater success because you feel like a charlatan, a fraud.
You think someone else deserves your success more than you do because you’ve been blessed with resources that other people have to work hard to get. You think this gives you an unfair head start, and as such, don’t deserve success.
Another sign of fearing of success is when you fear ther people’s expectations of you.
You’re afraid they’ll expect something from you that you can’t possibly deliver. Being successful and being in the spotlight can bring about people who expect you to be a constant achiever.
You might also have friends who might be jealous of your success and don’t want to have anything to do with you anymore simply because they’re insecure about their lack of success. So you’re afraid of being isolated.
You still want to hang out with your friends even after you’re successful but you’re afraid they’re going to keep you at arm’s reach, and you don’t want that.
So how to avoid making excuses?
It's quite simple really if you think about it. You need to examine why you are making excuses in the first place. Are you afraid of something? Of failure? Of success? Once you've identified the root cause, it will be easier for you to overcome your excuses and it will be easier for you to attain your goals in life.